Children in themselves are richness for humanity and for the Church,
because they recall to us constantly the necessary condition to enter in the
Kingdom of God
After having reviewed the different figures of family life – mother,
father, children, siblings, and grandparents --, I would like to end this first
group of catecheses on the family to speak about children. I will do so in two
sessions: today I shall reflect on the great gift that children are for
humanity. But this is true; thank you for applauding. They are the great gift
for humanity, but they are also greatly excluded. And next week I shall reflect
on some wounds that, unfortunately, harm children. There comes to mind the many
children I met during my last trip to Asia: full of life, of enthusiasm and, on
the other hand, I see that many of them live in the world in conditions that
are undignified. In fact, a society can be judged by the way its children are
treated. Not only morally, but also sociologically: if it is a free society or
a society slave of international interests.
The first thing that children remind us of is that all of us, in the
first years of life, were totally dependent on the care and benevolence of
others. And the Son of God did not spare himself this stage. It is the mystery
we contemplate every year at Christmas. The Manger is the icon that
communicates this reality to us in the simplest and most direct way. But it’s
curious. God has no difficulty in making himself understood by children, and
children don’t have problems in understanding God. It’s no accident that in the
Gospel there are very beautiful and intense words of Jesus on the “little ones.”
This term “little” indicates all persons that depend on the help of others,
and, in particular, children. For instance, Jesus says: “I thank you, Father,
Lord of heaven and earth, that thou hast hidden these things from the wise and
understanding and revealed them to babes” (Matthew 11:25). And again: “See that
you not despise one of these little ones; for I tell you that in heaven their
angels always behold the face of my Father who is in heaven: (Matthew 18:10).
Therefore, children in themselves are richness for humanity and for the Church,
because they recall to us constantly the necessary condition to enter in the
Kingdom of God: not to consider ourselves self-sufficient, but in need of help,
of love and of forgiveness. And we are all in need of help, of love and of
forgiveness. Everyone!
Children remind us of another good thing: they remind us that we are
always children: even if one becomes an adult or elderly, even if one becomes a
parent, if one has a position of responsibility, underneath all this remains
the identity of a child. We are all children! And this refers us to the fact
that we did not give life to ourselves but that we received it. The great gift
of life, the first gift we received: life! Sometimes we live forgetting this,
as if we were the masters of our existence; instead, we are radically
dependent. In reality, it is a reason for great joy to know that in every age
of life, in every situation, in every social condition, we are and remain
children. This is the principal message that children give us, with their very
presence. Their presence alone reminds us that each and all of us are children.
But there are so many gifts, so many riches that children bring to
humanity. I shall recall only a few. They bring their way of seeing reality,
with a trusting and pure look. A child has spontaneous trust in its father and
in its mother: and it has spontaneous trust in God, in Jesus and in Our Lady.
At the same time, its interior look is pure, it is not yet polluted by malice,
by duplicity, by the “incrustations” of life that harden the heart.
We know that children also have original sin, that they have their
selfishness, but they have a purity, an interior simplicity. But children are
not diplomatic! They say what they feel. They say what they see directly! And
so often they put their parents in difficulty. They say, “But I don’t like this
because it’s ugly, in front of other persons. But children say what they see.
They are not two-faced, they have not yet learnt that science of duplicity that
we, adults, have learnt.
Moreover, in their interior simplicity they bear in themselves the
capacity of receiving and giving tenderness. Tenderness means to have a heart
“of flesh” and not “of stone,” as the Bible says (Cf. Ezekiel 36:26).
Tenderness is also poetry: it is “to feel” things and events, not to treat them
as mere objects, just to be used, because they are useful ... Children have the
capacity to smile and to cry: some smile when I lift them to kiss them. Others
see me in white, they think I’m the doctor, and that I am going to vaccinate
them, and they cry – but spontaneously. Children are like this, they smile and
cry: two things that in us adults are often “blocked,” we are no longer capable....
and so often our smile becomes a cardboard smile, something without life, a
smile that’s not vivacious -- also an artificial smile, of a clown. Children
smile spontaneously and cry spontaneously ... it always depends on the heart
and our heart is blocked and often loses this capacity to smile and cry...
And, therefore, children can teach us again to smile and cry. However,
we must often ask ourselves: do I smile spontaneously with freshness, with love
or is my smile artificial? Do I still cry or have I lost the capacity to cry?
But these are two very human questions that children teach us.
For all these reasons Jesus invites his disciples “to become like
children,” because “He who is as they are belongs to the Kingdom of God” (Cf.
Matthew 18:3; Mark 10:14).
Dear brothers and sisters, children bring life, joy, hope, also trouble,
but life is like this. They certainly also bring worries and sometimes
problems. However, it’s better to have a society with these worries and
problems than a sad and grey society because it has remained without children!
And when we see that the level of births hardly reaches 1%, we can say that
this society is grey because it has remained without children.